Love and Money
I found a great one liner in The Science of Getting Rich
I imagine this relates to how much of your spiritual energy is caught up in dealing with the poverty so you have little or nothing left of it to share with anyone else. Oddly enough though when we are poor or in poverty “I’ve been there myself” we certainly can get angry. Which means we do have energy left its just that its negative energy.
Hope you enjoyed the post.
Yours in Prosperity,
Brendan
Feelings have to be fed.
Here’s a quick post on feelings and how they relate to our success, happiness and peace. For one thing on the other side of a feeling you’ll find great relief but most of us if not all of us feed our feelings. Feelings need energy and attention from you like adding gasoline to a fire, you give it power.
First we justify having the feeling and more often than that we spend time trying to change the feeling.
Exercise.
1. Pick a topic you have strong feelings about.
2. Now simply think to yourself “Could I let go of wanting to change that feeling and allow it to be as it is without acting on it in any way?” Allow this to occur for about 30 seconds then notice how it feels.
3. “Could I let go of wanting to justify that feeling and allow it to be as it is without acting on it in any way?” Allow this to occur for about 30 seconds then notice how it feels.
Don’t feed the feeling(s) with any new thoughts or pictures simply allow the feeling to exist as a separate item in your awareness. This can be used in many different ways. Say for example you are preparing for a big business meeting or job interview. Allow whatever feelings you have about that to simply rise to the surface and then follow the steps as described in this post.
Enjoy,
Brendan
Conditioned Thinking
All of our thoughts are conditioned. We all are thinking exactly along the lines we are conditioned to think. Programmed like a computer. Anybody who thinks they are actually choosing of their own free will the line of thinking that they have is completely deluded by their thinking.
Stranger in a Strange Mind
What can one do with a mind when its misbehaving? I’ve come to realize that the mind has a very specific process. For one thing it almost always follows a series of steps you can count on to be the same every time. For example the minds job is prove things out like a math professor solving an equation. Let us say for example you’re upset with Joe because he didn’t do what he said he would.
Now even though you don’t have all of the facts about why Joe didn’t do what he said he would the mind would take “Joe didn’t do what he said he would” and start giving all kinds of scenarios and stories about how this is true and how he’s really unreliable even if he’s been reliable in the past.
What’s actually occurring here is the mind is going to war with Joe and then it turns on you for going to war with Joe. Now remember that all of this is occurring in the mind “none of its real at this point”. When it does turn on you its often very difficult to defend yourself against the thoughts it will produce, prove and justify.
At this point you’re stuck in a manhole in the middle of a mental war zone.
Most of us usually turn to alcohol or drugs to stop the thinking or we simply join the ranks of the extremely depressed. We believe that there’s nothing that can be done about it, nothing will work but before we get to that we try everything we can like drugs, alcohol and some even turn to God “not that that’s a bad thing”.
This is perhaps the path most people take to becoming drug or alcohol addicts. They believe everything the mind throws at them whether its true or false.
What worked for me…
1. Step back for a moment and watch your thoughts, just notice them. (I learned about that mind manager trick here)
2. I figured out how to question my thoughts. (I learned that technique from this Gem.)
3. And lastly. I began to practice watching and questioning my thoughts on everything that cameup.
And finally
Could you simply allow the mind to be as it is in the moment? Simply give yourself permission to allow the mind to deliver as many thoughts as it needs to and while its doing so either a. question those thoughts or b. watch those thoughts like watching a movie.
Much Love,
Brendan
Problem Solved!
Did you know that if you spend a great deal of time trying to figure out how to solve a problem you are subconsciously planning to have that problem again. Think about it… there’s only one reason for having a solution to a problem, it’s so that every time you have the problem you’ve already figured out the solution.
But guess what… you won’t find a solution to the problem in your mind and here’s why.
1. If you already had the problem solved in your mind you never would’ve experienced it in the first place.
2. If by chance you caused the problem and you are now looking in your mind for an solution to the problem you’re looking in the wrong place. Simply put there’s going to be a mental conflict between the thoughts and beliefs that helped to cause the problem and figuring out how to solve the problem.
Catastrophic results usually follow “figuring it out”. I don’t mean solving math problems or computer problems and such. I am talking about problems in life.
So to summarize. If you’re trying to figure out how to solve a problem you’re planning to be prepared to have that problem again and again. Wouldn’t it be more productive to simply get rid of the problem entirely or solve it once and for all?
How you might think is that possible? Let’s see what we can do… Find a private place to do this exercise.
1. Imagine that everything in the world has stopped “press the pause button for a moment”.
2. Imagine that you are floating above it all, and see the whole situation as though it were a dramatic movie.
3. See yourself as a character in this dramatic movie. Visualize all that is making things difficult for you “the character/actor” in the drama.
4. Create many more difficulties for the “you” character as you can. Let them be unsolved, and let the “you” character be completely overwhelmed.
Now,
5. Go back to the point where you stopped everything. Create the difficulties again, and let them belong to some other character in the drama–not “you.” perhaps a co-star in the drama.
6. Invent solutions for these difficulties, coach the suffering character on what he or she should do. See them following your instructions, and watch as the difficulties are overcome.
7. Become the “you” character in the drama once more, and realize that you have just been a solver of difficulties.
8. Come back to earth from your viewing place, bringing with you the ability to change things and to solve problems and to resolve difficulties.
Here’s how this worked… You separated yourself completely from the problem, its as if a higher power took over when you were viewing the other characters problems. You were seeing objectively what they were experiencing and this gave you a clear view of their difficulties. Often when you are working to solve your own problems you are so deeply involved in it that you can’t see it objectively.
Hope you enjoy doing this exercise. I wish you the best and may your life be problem free, joyful and prosperous.
“Comments as usual are always welcome.”
Much Love,
Brendan
Creating Hell
I’ve been pondering this for sometime now… It occurs to me that its not what happens to us that causes us pain, its what we think about what happens to us that causes pain.
Hell is created by our thinking… I call it a religion. Not in the chrisitian sense but in the sense of believing your thoughts. you wake up in the morning thinking, believing everything that comes directly from the mind, mind is the thing from which ego flows. Thoughts like…
I’ll never get married
Nobody loves me
I’m better off with xxx than I am with yyy
I’m stuck in my dead end job
I just can’t see my future
I need more money
Notice for a moment the images you get in mind when you believe untrue thoughts. Just close your eyes and see what images appear. I did it recently on “I need more money”. All of the images that appeared were of me in poverty, with no money, no friends, no car, no house… Then I realized that thinking that way is not prosperous at all. It manifests all of those negative images. So if I am thinking “I need more money” daily, then I am manifesting in mind negative images of poverty in my future. And I’m doing it daily!! WOW!! Yuck!!
I’ve been into the work of Byron Katie “see link below this post for details” for sometime so I used her technique to question the thought “I need more money”. What an eye opener… I’m back in action, more capable and doing the things I need to do to make more money. Not sitting and thinking “I need more money”.
Hope someone finds this post useful.
PS
Be true to yourself.
When you lie you know you lied.
When you cheat you know you cheated.
When you don’t study daily to enhance your life, you cheat yourself out of freedom.
When you act powerless you know its not true.
When compromise with your integrity, you know it.
When you mistreat a friend, you know it.
When you mistreat yourself, you know it.
When you lie to yourself, you know it.
So be true to yourself… As difficult as the truth often is to face, its the only thing that will set you free. After all when you are all alone with yourself… whats left?
Alas - you can lead a person to wisdom but you cannot make them think!!
Here’s the link to Byron Katie’s book as promised. Absolutely powerful stuff…
Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
Much Love,
Brendan
The Dilemma
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out for another is to risk involvement
To expose feelings is to risk rejection
To place your dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule
To love is to risk not being loved in return
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds
is to risk failureBut risks must be taken
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing
does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrows,
but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or love.
Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave -
he has forfeited his freedom.
Only a person who takes risks is FREE
Oh before I forget – Today’s power exercise is.
When you recall an unhappy experience, you may think of it as completely negative -
* Something which you don’t want to have happen again,
* Something which you ’suffered’.
When you do this, it means that you have not learned the lessons that your experience offers you. Because you haven’t learned the lessons, you cannot apply them in your future. You can become wary of new experiences and you may shut off your willingness to experience new and better things.
Exercise.
See if there are some experiences from the past that you could learn from. Take a day or a few hours to review it from different perspectives then make notes of what you could or should learn from those past experiences. Start out with experiences that are not too emotional then see if you can move to more emotional experiences.
If you find that you are overwhelmed with emotion simply see if you can watch the emotions and memories like watching a movie on TV and notice what you can gain from the experience.
Also ask yourself “Could I allow this feeling/emotion to be as it is for the moment?” A yes or no answer is just fine here.
More exercises will follow daily. To your power!
